Transitions

Transition (tranˈziSH(ə)n)
the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another – – – synonyms: changeover, conversion, development, evolution, growth, progress, shift, transformation, alteration, turning point, realignment

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unnamedTransition, seems positive to me! I like the transitions that’ve been happening in my life lately. One of it is the urgency of my resignation from Captured Dream Productions, which became my home and my family for more than a year. It was bitter/sweet parting ways with them, cause I already became comfortable and close with my workmates. God taught me a lot in that company and sadly, my season there had to end. I remember praying for that job and receiving it as my breakthrough March 2014. Here’s the proof: CLICK ME 🙂  On a lighter note, it was just the job that I left, not the friends I made. 😉

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And so I prayed for a new job, and again, I was very particular with my prayer points. I won’t be disclosing the details of it anymore but all my prayers were answered. God immediately gave me my job at GAVA Technologies Inc. as a Marketing Associate, I got hired the day I officially resigned from CDP. I’ve been with GAVA for 3 weeks now. In all honesty, it’s challenging, it’s corporate and very systematised! I’m kinda not used to it, but I believe He’s the One who brought me there so I’m hopeful that He’ll provide for the grace in making me contribute to GAVA. 🙂

Another thing I love about my new job is the larger scale of opportunity for me to familiarise myself with foundations all around the country and abroad (*fingers crossed*), we partner with ABS-CBN Foundation, World Vision, UNICEF, etc.

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Last week, we visited SOS Children’s Village Philippines in Alabang, it’s a charity organisation founded by an Austrian named Hermann Gmeiner. You must be wondering why a tech company is partnering with foundations such as this. Well that’s because of our product, Gift It, it’s a generosity (online) app that is yet to be launched on October. It aims to build an ecosystem of giving to charity foundations and to friends on special occasions. Such an irony that God brought me here, I’d always pray that He would teach me to be more generous cause I was the type who always likes receiving. Oh well, my God is very clever. I’m convinced that I’m in the right path; for the Lord said, it’s better to give than to receive. Gift It surely has that quality! Another challenge for me (and for any of us) as I (/we) download the app soon. Hehe.

Transition 2 is my elevated value for friendship. Ever had people in your life you never imagined yourself being close with? I do.

unnamed4 unnamed3I never thought friendship could be as intense as what I have with these women, my sisters in Christ. I witnessed it a month ago during ate Mitch and Kuya Christian’s wedding, when we prayed, had some #realtalk, and when they listened and encouraged me in the midst of my roller coaster emotions. Kris, Ate Monica, Mel, Ate Mitch… in case you’re reading this now, thank you for being my accountability partners, for always pointing me to Him and reminding me of how much He loves me. I never understood and appreciated the perks of having sisters in Christ until my mentor, Tita Iris highlighted that I surround myself with girl friends. I literally found legit sisters in their persona, and I’m excited cause I’ve got more sisterhood to build and rekindle. Like the one below, my chinita-college-friends Mixy and Cam. I had a great time catching up with them. Below it is a photo of my rare bike-date with my cousins, Jazmin and Freida. Cousins can be awesome friends too!

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Does this mean I shall avoid befriending men? Hebrews 13:1 says keep on loving each other as brothers and sisters. And Proverbs 4:23 says above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. As I understood it, it’s alright befriending men but I shall deliberately draw a fine, unbreakable & uncompromising line on my friendship with them because I have to guard my heart, reserve and preserve the best and only VIP slot for the man I will marry one day. Practical matters such us: not having a guy best friend, not isolating myself in a room with a man, no late night phone calls, texts, random Facebook messages out of boredom, no flirting, no casual one-on-one invites for coffee, these are some of the things I shall take note of and practice in my life, for God sees my heart! And of course, have women as my accountability partners for they can relate to me and they understand me more. Sharing my emotional side to men could be very dangerous, there’s a natural possibility to develop unnecessary feelings. I sincerely appreciate learning all these now. Again, because I have to guard my heart, that’s for my own good, and for my future partner too. It may seem too strict, but the greater love you want, the greater sacrifices you make, right?

unnamed2Which leads me to my 3rd transition, my view on relationship. I want my future husband to find delight as he finds out one day that I never cheated on him on the process of waiting for him, that I waited in purity, in truth and integrity. That I didn’t date any man just because I got impatient and felt lonely on the process of waiting for him. We (us women) always say we want what’s best for us, and we want to end up marrying the right man. But for every cause, comes a cost. I believe mine would involve a lot of sacrifices, patience and perseverance. If I truly-madly-deeply want to end up with the right man, I’ve got to consciously and purposefully be the right woman, not a mere wishful thinking, not chic-flick kinna thing, but a woman of fine and secure relationship with the Lord first, more than anything or anyone else. Because I’m believe in faith that the man my Heavenly Father is preparing for me will meet or even exceed my desires and expectations. That’s why I want to be my God’s Best’s answered prayer too!

Why do I consider it a transition? Because I never viewed relationship this way back then. Sadly, in my five years of being single it’s only recently that I realised these matters. No regrets though, better late than never. 😉

Transition 4, Siri couldn’t help me with heart problems.

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But, here’s what I’ve learned…

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I’m going 4years old with my relationship with Jesus Christ, and I still have a lot of transitioning to do. For now, I’d like to be thankful for the current realignment He’s been doing in and through me.

I pray that you would feel the same too in whatever season you may be in. May we always find it satisfying that even if we haven’t yet gone through transition in some areas of our lives, knowing that He’s with us in Spirit and in truth, we’ll be absolutely fine!

Sincerely,

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Shall a woman pursue a man?

Coming home from work yesterday, I realized that almost my whole life I was always the one pursuing the boy/guy/man I like. Back when I was about 7years old I had a crush on my neighbor. I gave him a letter telling him that I like him. In 2nd year high school, I had a crush on a boy from the other class and all my friends knew about it, even the boy I liked knew it too. None of boys I liked pursued me. Perhaps because I wasn’t really as attractive as my other girl classmates were, I was boyish, I’d play basketball, I was the type who wouldn’t get flowers coming from an admirer every Valentines Day. Only my high school girl friends would give me roses back then. Haha. And why on earth did I want to be pursued back in my adolescent years? Uhg.

Every time a boy I liked would begin to like me, I’d refuse and I would eventually realize that I don’t like him anymore. For the ones I didn’t have a crush on, but liked me and courageously laid down their intentions, I’d usually give an instant “NO” and either verbally or mentally state these lines: please don’t like me, my decision won’t change, like someone else, go away. I would impulsively and emotionally do it just to get rid of the person without realizing how damaging my actions/thoughts/words could be to him.

I had 2 (ex) boyfriends, this was back in college. The 1st one pursued me because I saw his photo from a classmate’s phone, I found the guy cute, and I told my classmate to give him my number. I was practically the one who made the 1st move. We started texting, dated for a couple of days, became together, and our relationship lasted for two years. My 2nd boyfriend lasted for two years as well, but I can’t really say that he pursued me too because we just swiftly became together after my 1st boyfriend and I broke up. My relationships lasted pretty long but the foundations were shallow, it didn’t have Christ in the center, it was full of lies, petty arguments and insecurities, no doubt it all ended.

So here’s what I’ve realized: I had a distorted view of how dating/relationship/courtship shall be. I always thought it was okay for a woman to choose and pursue the man she likes. The truth though is that I shall never pursue a man, for it’s a man’s role to pursue a woman. I learned all these the hard and painful way, and I sincerely pray it won’t happen to any of you who’ll be able to stumble upon this blog.

When I learned about Jesus, that’s when I realized that I shall be pursued, for He is my ultimate pursuer even if I kept running away from Him a thousand times, He would still remind me of how much He loves me and He has forgiven me for all the wrong decisions I’ve made in my life. And there’s no condemnation in Him! That’s how much He sees me (us women) so purely and beautifully, just like Boaz’s love for Ruth despite her being a foreigner (she wasn’t Jewish), a widower (she wasn’t a virgin) and a servant girl (she wasn’t wealthy). Ultimately, despite my sinfulness and distorted beliefs, Jesus died for me, that I may be full of hope in believing that true love will come. In Christ, there’s no such thing as “hopeless romantic”, for His’ love for us is full of HOPE. And it’s where our path goes as we surrender our lives to Him. Mind you, it’s a daily surrender.

If you feel like making the first move for a man to like you, don’t. The happiest couples I know went through the right process of courtship. The woman was pursued by the man. The man prayed for the woman, asked the woman from the Lord. It was hard work, there were lots and lots of prayers. The women’s role during the process were to pray and wait. Again, to wait, to patiently wait and not make a single move that may trigger intentions and feelings that shouldn’t be orchestrated in the first place.

A lot of us may be chasing for true love; but as a woman, I believe God told me to stop. Because it was never my role to chase after love. I want to be like Ruth, to not just be seen by any man, but be understood, honored and revered by the one and only man the Lord’s preparing for me. (That’s gonna take a lot of work on my part as well. Faith without action is bs!) I want to be molded and be secured in Jesus at all times, that I may be worth it for His’ best for me. I think I found the right answer for the popular question of Adele’s song that a lot of women would ask: “Should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements?” Answer (to me) is: give up! If you are a woman, give up the pursuit of the one you think is right for you. Only the Lord knows who’s right for you, and according to my married friends, a man only becomes the “right one”  when there’s peace and joy as he pursues you, when it’s good and pleasing, and doesn’t cause you to breaking the Lord’s commandments.

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I think what made me do all the pursuing are my fears. But I shall know that perfect love drives out fear. That as I immerse myself in the Lord’s Perfect love, all these fears will go away. I’m excited. I hope to this right (this time around), by His’ grace. And if there is One Man that I shall pursue as I patiently wait to be pursued by the one, that has got to be Christ alone. No other man!

(Wrote this April 2015, few add ons today)